Why women return to abusive relationships

Gosh! I love myself, I love my body and everything about myself. There might be some few things about myself I will love to change, but that aside, am so confident and in love with myself. My body for me is one of the most interesting part of me, and believe it or not, I might not have so much money to me look like beyonce, but I certainly wont stand anyone trying to me look like a punch bag.

It's nothing new that women often return to men who abuse them (physically, emotionally and of course, psychologically). Too often, in a rush to judge women who return to abusers, we forget that abusers aren't abusive 24 hours a day, and it is much more difficult to parmanently leave an abusive relationship than many of us wish to acknowledge.


Moreover, sometimes - very rearly - abusers do actually get treatment and change their behavior. Nevertheless, in most cases, women keep going back to men who would continue to abuse them and that kinda makes one wonder why these women go back to be treated a such.

Difficult and as unbelievable as it might sound, here are some common reasons why most women go back to highly abusive relationships.

Love
This is the most important element in the life of every relationship. Its easy to forget that abuse doesn't necessarily make a woman lover her abuser any less. Indeed for women with low self esteem or who have been abused by others in their life, the abuse may actually make them more attache to their abusers.

In almost all cases, legitimate love for the abuser plays a significant role in the woman's decision to return and people working with abused women must be willing to help them grieve over the relationship if they decide to leave.

Hope
Abusers aren't typically abusive all the time. Frequently, they are people with real problem controlling their anger and serious issues with women. They often harbor sexiest ideas with women's role and experience intense regrets when they lash out on a woman.

The cycle of abuse followed by extreme apologies lures women into believing that the abuse was a one - time thing or that the abuser will really change. Combined with a deep love for the abuser, this hope can be a powerful thing that compels women to re-enter extremely dangerous situations.

Normalcy
Women who have been abused by several people, who grew up in abusive household, or who have low self-esteem may not view abuse as the aberrant behavior of someone with serious problems. For these women, abuse feels normal and it's difficult for them to truly grasp the severity of an abusive relationship.

Fear
Fear is almost always a motivating factor in a woman's decision to return to an abusive relationship. Women are in the most danger during the period of immediately after leaving their relationships, and even women who truly want out may return in a desperate attempt to save their lives.

Lack of support
Both emotional and material support are vital to helping abusive women leave. The judgement and questions of friends and family often compel women to return to abusive relationships when they have no one to talk to or to lean on. When women don't have a place to go, don't have people available to help with their children, or don't have access to vital resources, they are much more likely to return to abusive relationships.

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